Tuesday, 2 April 2019

FIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT JEWELLERY





On our last buying trip, we took a few hours to visit the Paul Klee exhibit at Milan’s Museum of Culture. Klee was an artist and art theorist who studied how primitive peoples adorned their bodies with jewellery.

This got us thinking about the timelessness of jewellery, and the beautiful, unique journey every piece of jewellery takes from the moment it leaves our store. How many outfits will it improve? How many generations will it pass through? And what will it mean to the person wearing it?

Now that you’re starting to put our winter hats, gloves and jackets away, and you’re more able to show off the jewellery you wear, we thought we’d take a break from talking about our clothes and focus on the accoutrements that tie a look together. 

Here are a few thoughts we have about jewellery:

Jewellery doesn’t have to be expensive to be precious


Coco Chanel understood this all too well. She made a habit of mixing her fine jewellery pieces with costume jewellery. According to her, modest materials could please her as much as silver and gold. Think about that as you build your collection. Sometimes, a $100 piece can complete a high-end look better than a $5,000 one.













You can plan an outfit to match the jewellery

The default order is to put a look together and then accentuate it with jewellery. But sometimes, it’s worth it to go the other way. If a piece in your drawer is calling out to you on a particular day, start there. You might find yourself putting different clothing combinations together and coming up with looks you might not have otherwise.









 


Make room for contemporary and timeless pieces

Just like with clothes, jewellery trends come and go. For example, a few years ago light blue stones were all the rage. Many of our customers jumped on this and picked up some magnificent pieces. But they didn’t get rid of their classic pieces. You can never go wrong with a pair of diamond earrings or a simple silver necklace.













































The rules of jewellery are made to be broken


Unlike clothes, which are made to be worn a certain way, you have full creative freedom when it comes to jewellery. Feel like wearing a pinky ring around a neck chain? Go for it. If it makes you feel good, then it’s right for you.



Remember the reasons you bought your jewellery 


You’re probably not going to pass your clothes down to your heirs. But you will pass on your jewellery. It’d be nice to pass it down with the stories behind the pieces. They’ll mean so much more.



Next time you’re here, take a moment to look at the jewellery we have in our display case at the front of the store by the cash desk. And if you have questions about how to buy, how to wear and what to consider, we’re here to help.

















Wednesday, 30 January 2019

The Value of Date Night




The Value of Date Night



A client of ours got divorced late last year after 27 years and three kids. The way she explained it was rather tragic, actually.

“It dawned on me on a Saturday morning,” she said. “My husband and I were having coffee in the kitchen and not talking, as usual. And I realized that we had essentially forgotten how to talk to each other. We had been out of practice for so long that we lost the skill completely.

“I told my husband how I felt. He said he felt the same way. And that was it. I’m happier now. But I’m still devastated that it came to that.”

Imagine that. A quarter-century of history ending in silence. It’s unfortunately more common that anyone wants to admit, but the numbers bear it out.

A 2018 study found that the number of people over 50 getting divorced has grown 109 percent since 1990 (compared to a 14 percent increase among people 40 to 49 and a 21 percent decrease in the 25- to 49-year-old demographic.

So if you’re a 40-something married woman, what can you do to make sure you don’t wind up like our newly divorced client?

From our standpoint it’s pretty simple: put in the effort to keeping yourselves in each other’s lives.


Start with a standing date night, and do your best to look your very best every time out.

The simple ask of making the choice to look good for your partner is the epitome of romance. It subliminally (or not so subliminally) establishes the other person as worthy of your effort.

We’ve had clients come in specifically for something to wear on a date with their husbands. And it warmed our hearts every time, especially that smile they get when they find the perfect piece.

It’s a smile of pride, anticipation and love.

And it leads to the kind of dopamine release that builds up over time and keeps the fire burning beyond years and into decades.






Dressing for "Date Night"

What you wear obviously depends on what you’re doing, but our advice for date night with your partner is to dress elegantly but comfortably. Your partner is the one person you should feel okay about being around with your guard down.

Here are a few pieces we’ve sold clients in advance of date night:











Simple "Date Nights"

There’s a time, usually in your 30s, when you equate the price and pomp of date night activity with a successful date night.

But then, in your 40s, usually after a few years with kids, you realize that the company is more important than the activity.

Go for an inexpensive dinner. Go for a walk. Catch a flick or a play. Whatever you do, you want to know you look good and not give it another second of thought. You want to be 100% focused on your partner. In a perfect world, you want to notice something different about him every time you go out, and you want him to notice something different about you. That’s not going to happen if you’re overly focused on what you’re wearing or what you’re doing.






"Date Night" Etiquette

Real life with a young family is just about trying to get through the day in one piece. Things like chivalry and courtesy take a back seat and that’s okay. But it’s not okay on date night.

You and your partner should commit to being on your best behaviour on date night. Hold doors for each other. Say “pardon me?” instead of “what?”

And make an effort to keep conversations going by avoiding words that shut them down: words like “no” and “whatever.” There’s an old improv trick where you answer everything your stage partner says with “yes…and…” so there’s always something to say and the conversation is always being added to.


And finally…
Try to keep your date nights. Yes, life is busy, but not too busy that you can’t take two hours a week to make sure you and your partner have a sustainable future.





On a personal note





Clarke and Dorothea have been married for 31 years. They’re on a super-busy buying trip, crisscrossing Europe, going frantically from show to show and making decisions that will affect the next year here at PK. But you can bet they’ll make time to take time at their favourite café romantic Maison Bès in Paris, Dry Milano in Milan for negronis and great music.